The Role Medical Practitioners play

Interview Life Matters Feb 27th Dr Cathy Kezelman ABC Radio National discussing the role medical practitioners play in helping adults who have been victims of childhood sexual abuse

Dateline – interview with Fr. Tom Doyle


Dateline showed an interview with Fr Tom Doyle who has been observing the impact of child abuse within the catholic Church for 25 years. He is outspoken about the systemic failure of the church to act. I posted the following comment on the website

Fr. Tom Doyle speaks the truth – systemic failure

The RCC continues to fail to bring the perpetrators of child sexual assault to justice, address the systemic secrecy and silence within, or provide the requisite pastoral care to victims. Crimes have been committed by clergy globally and yet the church hierarchy has repeatedly failed to take responsibility or intervene to protect children. Child abuse is a pervasive social practice, not limited to RCC but the response of this institution has exponentially comounded the damage.


Dear Cathy,
I finished your book on Monday morning, I couldn’t put it down. Such COURAGE UNDER FIRE!!! Tears were streaming down my face in the final pages at your triumph. I had lots of questions on the Sunday because I hadn’t finished the book but these were gradually answered. No one should have to endure what you endured, it’s a credit to you and growly that you all pulled through, he’s the best, doing his absolute most to help you survive and survive you did. You were blessed with Kate, she came through as a very courageous therapist, professional and also your trusted friend.   I read somewhere that at your book launch your children spoke and Dan and that they had the audience in tears, it is a blessing that your family is still together and stronger than ever. Cathy you are an absolute legend in my book, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your involvement in ASCA, it is the most wonderful organisation and it has given me so so so much strength. You are doing good things, you are helping so many people, this book is going global girl look out !! 🙂 love Frances x

Your survival is remarkable and profound

I have read your book.  Your survival is remarkable and profound, as is your expose’ expressed in parts.  This shocking story, sickening to the soul, serves to give hope, at least to other survivors embarking on the road to recovery.  I am amazed at your resilience and compulsion to deal with very difficult issues.  Congratulations on articulating this very difficult history.

I wish you continued success on your road to recovery, in finding the life that was robbed of you!

Thank you for sharing it with us.

 From John

An inspiring account

Cathy Kezelman’s book is an inspiring account of her quest as an adult to confront and then move past the deep psychic trauma of her sexual abuse as a child.  Remarkably the author illuminates the defence of dissociation and gives voice to the fragmented parts into which, in order to survive, her childish self disintegrated. The book is a testament to a wonderful therapist, a loving husband and the author’s own courage in reclaiming lost parts of herself and integrating them into a whole self for the first time in her adult life. It provides hope that despite childhood trauma a good life can still be achieved.

Dr. Susan Kempler

Book helpful for practitioners

I think the book is very helpful to practitioners. I have finished reading it and I have told my group of counselling studnets at ACAP all about it.

For me it reinforces the idea that therapy is not about a bunch of skills and techniques, it is about the safe, respectful relationship that is created between the counsellor and client.

The book has provided me with another layer of understanding regarding the conflict and confusion for a child when sexually abused by a loved one. The dialogue of the child, which goes between monster daddy and nice daddy is really effective in highlighting the challenges for the child and that sense of responsibility for the well being of the parent.

The discusion relating to dissociation and the fragmentation as well as flashbacks can be very informative for  a practitioner.